Don't Worry, Be Happy

Wednesday, January 07, 2009

Jason and I have both been a little surprised and taken aback at the reactions of other people to the news that we are returning to Canada. There are many people, both here and back home, who seem to be taking the news harder than we are. (Hey, you "back home" people--are you trying to tell us something, or what? ;-D) While we really appreciate the abundance of concern on our parts, and while there are definitely things that we wish could be different, we just want you all to know: we are okay with this.

We are NOT upset that this venture did not turn out exactly the way we hoped. (Okay, maybe a little, but we're mostly over it already.) We do NOT consider this a failure. It was a chapter. It was a sabbatical, a rest, a time of growth--but not something we will ever regret.

The positive things that have happened during this time are many--some intangible, but I will try to list the tangible ones for you:

  • We have grown closer as a family. Months of association with mostly just ourselves have drawn Jason and I closer in our marriage, and we have bonded even more strongly with our kids. Also, we have come to appreciate my mom and Mike even more than before.
  • We have grown spiritually. While we are all in our own place on our walk, for me personally I have been finding answers to some questions that have been bothering me for over a year and a half now. Not all the answers. But slowly, they are coming. Jason and the kids have each been moving forward on their walks, as well.
  • We have increased our skill sets. Jason got to learn several new computer programs, and some graphic design stuff. I learned how to milk a cow, and got to dive into my first year as a full-time home-school mom with very little distraction. Jude is finally at the point where he really enjoys karate. (Last night during the "today I am thankful for" part of prayers, Jude said he was glad to be "back at work at karate." Jason and I have stopped going to karate for now to save money for the move, but Jude is doing it as his Phys. Ed. for school, so he is still going.)
  • We have found our calling. Okay, not "we" exactly--Jason, to be more precise. For the first time, he is discovering a line of work that he is truly passionate about. He can help people make their lives better, and I think that is the true appeal. He has applied to take Dave Ramsey's course to be a financial counselor. During the current economic crisis, more and more people are wanting to find real answers on how to fix their finances, and we hope that Jason can help them find those answers, using the same tried-and-true steps we have been following.
  • We have developed friendships. It was to be expected that we are meeting new and wonderful people down here. However, when you leave, you get to know who your friends are--the ones that keep in touch, that loved on you before you left, and (you hope) will still be there when you return. Also, the ones that will let you live in their basement now that you are homeless! (*wink at Amanda*)
  • We rested. Down here, we do not have to renovate a house. We have not been heavily involved in church ministries and activities. We have had shared duties for cleaning and cooking and parenting and household maintenance. And we have not once had to put on snow pants. In many ways, now that we know we are returning this just seems like the longest holiday we have ever had.
So, thank you for your concern--it truly does mean a lot. But we really are okay. Really.

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  1. Sorry to hear that you and your family are leaving our area. I hope that whatever is best will happen for you.

    An Arkie's Musings

  2. The USA will miss you! But it sounds like you're following what the Lord wants.

    Blessings on the move. And the .ca website will again be good.

  3. We like it that you are moving back here. To Canada that is. But should you desire another adventure, our basement could house your fam for a while...

  4. Just as a minor clarification for Paul and any others that don't know. We are moving back because we have no choice. I have been laid off at work and my work visa for the USA does not allow me work for anyone except this one company so hi ho hi ho off to Canada we go.

    Dawn- Be careful what you wish for. It may not be wise to let us stay in your basement. Spontaneous games of Settlers of Catan would breakout and eventually that would just be bad for our careers and overall lifestyle. Due to a lack of sleep of course.:P

  5. I'm still a little blown away that you are moving back. Coming back from vacation and catching up on your last 11 posts, so it's been really sudden for me :-)

    All the best for the move back. Will you be going back to the same place you were before?

  6. Spontaneous games of Settlers would be most welcome...we haven't play it since we last played with you guys! But you are right, who would feed the children, pay the bills or work for that matter. I'm sure Settlers would take over. But if you need a stop over, you know where we are!

  7. Rohini - Ooo... vacation. I can hardly wait to read about it. Sorry for the sudden knews. It was a little bit sudden for us, too, although not completely unexpected. Oh, well. Keep moving forward.

    Dawn - Paying bills is good. But really, you are not so far from Alberta. Surely we can manage to meet up a little more often?

  8. Talena & Jason,
    Wow! That is news. I'm so sorry about the lay off, but it seems like you are excited about the move back home. I'm looking forward to seeing what the Lord will do in your lives through this season. It was nice getting to know you guys a little bit! :)

    God bless!

  9. Well. I'm glad you're coming home, closer to me. Cuz I miss you and those lil guys.

    And I love you.


  10. well, there goes my future plans to visit! anyways. youre still on the same blog!! yay!! lol. Happy new year and i hope you have a safe move back.
    we just got back from India!!

  11. Talena! I will see you again! I am so glad to hear of how your hearts have been encouraged, affirmed and rested. And I am VERY curious to see what God's got up His sleeve for the Wintery Five. Very.

    LOVEloveLOVE! xo

  12. Rohini - Yep, it looks like we will be heading back to snowy PR. Well, there won't be too much snow by the time I show up in May. Hopefully that means none. :-D

    Paul - I guess, technically, .ca is for people living in Canada. But I paid for it for two years, so I wasn't about to cancel it! Now I'm going back, so no harm done.

    Jennifer - Thanks so much! Too bad we won't get to know each other better in person before I leave! Oh, well--I do have three more months. And there is always the blogosphere.

    BEG - You can pretty much bet that you will be seeing us on our way through this time. I won't have the ridiculous time crunches that we had on the way down, and I am planning on coming up through Cal.

    Grafx - I ran the idea of the kids and I coming to Nashville with Jason (where he is taking his financial counseling course next week), but the low-down was that it didn't fit in our budget. It was my last-ditch attempt to get together with you before we head north. However! Jason will be there, if you want to meet him!

    Colleen - Hmm... thou mightest be on my way up to Canada-way, you know. I want to visit mon frère in Seattle before heading north, but I am not sure if I have to cross the border with my stuff or not (which Mike will be hauling, therefore I would have to meet him in Montana.) I'll call you. We'll talk.


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